You have summed up pretty much everyone's experiences in most parts of the country! You have to keep showing up, be friendly, ask questions and make friends. Definitely help out on clean up days or at or before tournies to get yourself known more. There are these kind of people in all regions and in all activities/clubs. Your goal should always be to have fun, and learn when you get the opportunity!
Bang da chains!
2013 DGCR Travel Tag #38