In conclusion, the percentage of players I've run into seem to be about 25% guys who just want to drink and/or smoke pot, 30% guys who seem to be taking everything a little too seriously and are kind of douchebags, 20% casual players or newbs throwing Grooves on 150' holes, 24% good guys about on my level that seem like good guys I'd enjoy spending an afternoon with, 1% women.
Seems like maybe you are being a little judgemental man. Maybe the 55% that drink/smoke and take the game seriously are the one who can help you out if you ask. Though, honestly I am not sure what drinking/smoking or being a woman has to do with anything. Draw double is a great way to meet better players. I think if you ask around, there are always players willing to lend a hand. Good luck and hope you learn to love the game as much as I have.